New Ad….another try

Ok, so I posted a new ad:

I am seeking a very specific type of relationship. PLEASE be sure to read the whole ad.

I am a SWF, 45 y/o, red/blue, few extra pounds; looking for a long term relationship (does not have to be marriage), but looking for someone that is interested in also establishing an ANR. If you do not know what this is, please do a google search on ANR/ABF. You will understand. 

I am looking for a partner who is between the ages of 40 and 55 (may go slightly higher, but NOT younger). A man who lives within 30 minutes of the Monroe area; anything farther, is just not conducive to establishing the ANR portion of this. You MUST be single. Absolutely single. I will not discuss this, as it is not an option. 

I am not looking for a physical partnership. I am looking for the whole relationship. If you are only interested in something physical, please keep moving. 

If you choose to respond to this ad, please tell me where you are located, how old you are and your current situation. Tell me about YOU. . ..and why I should consider this with you. 

As for me, I am independent, but I enjoy having someone to do things with. I enjoy many things including, reading, movies, music, fishing, riding ATV’s, bicycling, walks, and pets (have a cat). I am looking for someone that is outgoing, open-minded and interested in spending time together when we can, and enjoy our alone time also. 

Thank you for reading and I hope to hear from you.

So far the responses have been:

  • I’m 42 and looking, yea single
    My response:  Hey happy for you. But I would prefer someone that is actualy willing to tell me more than that.
  • hi there,im XYZ .im a VERY SINGLE 47yr old man,5ft8in160lbs great build,good looking & CLEAN!!!i have long blond hair & many tattoos..i live in & LOVE the country,im just outside of orfordville…’about 30min from monroe’..i describe myself as a country boy/biker/gentalman,i LOVE to travel & camp in my motorhome,fishing,county fairs,im VERY spontanious & adventerous!!!!im allways willing to try something new,FREE SPRIT TYPE LOL!!!i was married for 20yrs & raised 2 kids,i really ENJOYED living a ANR relationship but my wife stopped after a few months & i have really missed it since!!!!im just laid back,peacefull & DRAMA FREE!!do i sound like your type??i will be glad to get more detailed if your interested in getting to know me better!!!! XYZ
    My response:  Thanks for the note……Even if we can’t make an ANR, I would love to meet you.  You should like a ton of fun!!!!  I love the free spirit in everyone.  I guess that is why I am the way I am today.  I was tired of being the person everyone thought I should be.  I have been extremely adventurous in my life and have enjoyed many aspect of life that it offers.     But I also like my down home, low keyed life also.  I believe I can have both….and having someone to enjoy that with would be great.
    NOTE:  He and I are making plans to meet in the upcoming days.
  • Before I progress with details, I need to tell you that I am a retired white bald heavy set prosperous, successful businessman for rural Verona, WI.  I am divorced, own my own home, live alone, and would be very interested in hearing more from and about you to see if we are compatible.
    If you feel that Verona is within your distance range, and my age of being in my 60’s, are not a deal breaker, I would be happy to hear from you with details and exchange photos, etc.
    While I have never been in such a relationship, I do find that I have always fantasized about such and am extremely turned on by the activity and would love to have a nice friendly attractive lady for a partner for such breast intimacy.  How large are your breasts and are you lactating? Tell and show me more — I am a very nice gentleman – and am interested –
    My response:  nothing so far….haven’t decided
  •  I am very interested, 49 from XYZ
    My response:  nothing, and doubt I will, but if I did it would be similar to the one above that mentions hearing from people that talk more.
  • I am a young mature 63 years old, single,living in XYZ. Just moved here from ABC four weeks ago.Divorced for over four years.
    Own my home, financially secure,enjoy traveling,passionate cooker, honest, sense of humor and not a game player.
    I believe you would choose me due to my experience, maturity and my sensual mouth. Also I have all the time in the world to take care of your special needs.Your breasts would be in great hands and I am sure you would feel the enjoyment throughout.
    If you feel this might work for you please send me a note.
    My response:  I am looking for a partner that can assist with inducing milk……You don’t mention your interest in ANR, just the attention to my breasts?
  • Im everything u want 48 but im a female
    My response:  Ok, and?  We can discuss this further.
    Note:  We are discussing it further.

So while the responses have been few so far (only posted yesterday); I am once again hopeful.  Very hopeful!

Happy Nursing!

Heaven

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Proper Latching

Ok, I know we have all done it.  The research.  Adult Nursing Relationship.

And….we have all found the same information over and over and over…..just on different sites and worded a bit differently.  So where does the ‘new’ information come into view?

Only when people like us, begin to share stories and experiences.

Proper latching is something that you will only find information that really pertains to mother’s and their baby.

After a quick search (and review); I am listing a few here for you to check out.  Some give both good and bad latching information.  You can’t know it is ‘bad’ unless you know what is ‘good’.

http://www.breastfeedinginc.ca/content.php?pagename=videos

Specifically these videos:

  • Really Good Drinking
  • Good Drinking
  • Squeezing Nipple Demonstration

http://www.breastfeeding.com/helpme/helpme_images_anatomy.html

http://www.breastfeeding-problems.com/Latching-on.html

I hope these help the new folks out there!

Happy Nursing

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Frustration, part 2

Greetings to all my followers!

It has been awhile since I have written.  Life just has a way of getting in the way of things.

So my ‘rant’ today is about guys that find me while on Yahoo messenger.

I have had one guy ask me, after chatting for a few days, if I had pumped the night before…thinking about him.  When I asked him why I would do that, he said that it would help me with let down if I thought about someone such as himself.  Again I asked him why and he told me:  It helps to think about someone that understands what you are going through.

REALLY??????  I don’t know you!!!!!  I have only chatted with you for a few days and you think it would help me to think about YOU?  WTH???????

Done, Blocked.

I had one that told me he was interested.  Ok, cool.  Oh, but I had to agree to be a hucow.  NO FLIPPIN’ WAY!  I am a woman.  I want to be treated as a woman.  I am not a human ‘cow’ for you to milk!

Done, Blocked.

Another, curious.  NOT interested…..just curious.  Really?  Same thing in my book, but ok…..   When I explained what I was looking for, he freaked out!  He had no clue what ANR really was!!!!  You answer an ad and you don’t read it???????

Done, Blocked.

Another:  I like boobies.   Ok…..I like them too.  I asked what I was to do with this information.  He told me that he loved to just feel them up.  Oh rapture!  NOT!

Done, Blocked.

Another:  I am only 15 minutes from you.  I am really up for this.  I have been looking for this for a long time.   Hey, how old are you?  He is flippin’ 24 years old!!!!!!!!!!!!   REALLY????  My ad is specific:  men aged 40 to 55!!!!!!!

Done, Blocked.

Yes, another:  I have been looking for someone like you interested in ANR.  The thought of nursing from a milky breast is all I think about.  Wow, ok.  So I ask:  You have experience?  Oh, yes, when my wife was pregnant, I nursed from her, but she isn’t interested in maintaining that.  WHAT????  YOUR WIFE????????   Um, my ad states:  no men that are attached in any way, shape or form!!!!!

Done, Blocked.

Moral of my story?  If you message me, I will ask you the following questions:

  1. Where are you from?
  2. How old are you?
  3. What is your current status?

If you tell me you are more than 30 minutes from me?  You are not going to be anything more than a chat friend.

If you tell me you are younger than 40, you will be told no.  Sorry, but I just am not interested in the younger guy.

If you tell me you are in ANY form of a relationship with someone, you will be told:  GO TALK TO YOUR PARTNER!  NOT ME.

Why can’t we just find real partners in our area?  People that truly understand what this is all about…..NOT about someone getting off on sucking on someone’s boob!

Ok, rant over!

 

Happy Nursing!

Heaven

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Frustration, part 1

So, I bit the bullet once again.  I placed an ad on a listing site.  I did this one other time and had what I thought were good results.  I even got to the point of meeting someone…..what a mistake that turned out to be.  Won’t get into details here, but it is a situation of ‘my fault/your fault’ and no compromise.  We did have a meeting of the minds and bodies…..and wow, oh wow….was that good.  But it just won’t go anywhere.

So I posted the following:

Looking to find someone that is interested in a potential long-term relationship with ANR as a dynamic component to the relationship. If you are not sure that that is, PLEASE…..Google it. You will find out. 

I am 45, BBW (currently working my body), 5′ 3″, red/blue, and not looking for game players, one-night stands, or anyone that thinks I can ‘teach’ them! 

I am looking for someone that is my age group (NO younger than 40 and NO older than 55). Someone that understands the kind of relationship this is and the commitment it requires. Looking for someone in the XYZ area; but will entertain other locations, based on the situation. 

Please email me…..I would like to hear from you!

So my responses began almost immediately.   Some of them are here in their entirety, with my comments (not my actual email back):

1.  Hi — 52yr wm. living in XYZ  — would love to talk more. 

Ok, he is close, a bit older than me; but HEY!  DO YOU HAVE EXPERIENCE?????  Turns out he doesn’t.   

2.  Hello,

 Your ad is a blessing. That is to have a woman show up offering what I seek rather then my quest to find a woman interested in what I seek. 

I worship breast, the fullness, the textures, the shape, the structure, and the god given gift of creating milk when properly coaxed and trained. Milk to nourish me, breasts to satisfy my driven desire to kiss, caress, and nurse from. 

I am strongly attracted to a buxom, full-figured woman. Fat does not register in my profile of what attracts me… I love large thighs, hips, arms, girth, thickness, and large buttocks. The textures and curves of a large woman create a strong attraction for me. I am fully aroused at this moment as wonder how you are shaped and how your breasts will affect me. 

I travel a lot. I could not be in a long-term committed relationship that offers time together on a regular basis. I get one weekend in XYZ each month. Is there any way you could be interested in a man that can visit you one weekend per month but be in contact with you by phone, email, and text continuously? 

I am 54, divorced, 6’2″, 270 lbs. a white gentleman 

Really?  You can only offer 1 weekend a month?  And I am supposed to have an ANR out of this?  Sorry dude!

3.  I am a real breast man i have helped 2 other women produce breast milk and really enjoyed it , what size are you on top and do you know where XYZ is?

Ok, helped 2 other women….that is a bonus.  What size am I?  Hmmm, that is a minus (size of breasts do not matter in this) and yes, I know where your town is.  Sorry…..I am not interested.

4.  Hi,Im 42yrs have a job,house etc,pic for pic

Really?  You have a job and a house?  That is great……what does that tell me about your interest in ANR??  Not one flipping thing?

5. hi there how are u today

Um, fine thank you.  How are you?   Obviously he is just looking to talk to someone?  

6.  Hi, 

Got a pic?

Yep I got one, but I am not sharing it with you!!!!!   

7.  Hmmmm.  You have a very articulate and well-written post!  I appreciate your intellect, as it’s an important factor for me in a relationship.  Got to have it!  And your write well, too. 

But are you still seeking?  Over, 6.204 replies yet?  

It’s difficult to find a woman who desires an ANR.  I seek to nurse on a regular basis.  Are you lactating or do you need to be made to? 

6’2″, 186, fun, conversant, 52, very well-traveled, too many hobbies to list, very handsome, many friends, creative, articulate, no kids, great shape,  NOT desperate, and much more.   About an hour from you, but can travel and has flexible schudule. 

I HAVE PHOTOS! 

Thanks for reading.

With a follow-up email from him:

I do enjoy nursing, and require lengthly sessions of suckling.  I find it to be erotic, soothing, and highly nutritious. 

I am not seeking an LTR, but instead a friend who requires her breasts to be suckled on a regular basis.  Typically I enjoy light conversation followed by lenghtly nursing sessions.  I prefer to lie sideways across you lap, and suckle while you hold my head to your breasts.  

I do not seek intercourse.  I do, however, on ocassion, automatically orgasm hard after about 40 minutes of nursing.  I am happy to suckle clothed or naked so you may observe what you wish.  I prefer breasts with a cup size of D or larger.  

I uderstamd that this may not be what you seek!

Nope, not what I am looking for.

8.  How are you?  I’m 40 years old 6’2 brown hair brown eyes 230lbs. I’m.from the XYZ area. I’m.a total breast man I love the ANR aspects of it. I am looking for a possible ltr also.

I enjoy dinner movies traveling or whatever might be going on around in.the area. Here is a picture hope to hear from you.

Thanks

Ok, I think this might just be a keeper!  *Will let you know where this one goes.*

 9.  I like your ad. 

I am 48, married, 6′ 2″, 205#, moderately athletic, normal. 

I am very interested in learning more about your desire for an ANR relationship. 

I will show up if invited. 

May I please tell you more? 

Thank-you,

 Hmm, ok, I do realize that my ad didn’t say anything about being single…but I would think it is a given?  Maybe not.  NOTE:  I do politely respond stating that I am not looking to get involved with anyone that is married.  

I get this very pleasant email back. 

I certainly understand your aversion to married men, but assure you that my situation is unique. 

My wife underwent an early and extremely difficult menopause several years ago. Together, we have tried many therapies and procedures, but her situation is unchanged. She has no desire for sex, with me or anyone. 

Prior to this, we had engaged in an active sex life that focused on her large breasts and milk. 

I am looking for the extremely allusive, ongoing ANR that you described in your ad. 

She has given me permission in this case to contact you. 

May I please tell you more? 

Ok, well, hmm…….I really do want to talk to this gentleman more…… 

Ok, so in the end, I did get some ok replies also…..and I have sent information back to them, but, I will just continue talking with the ones that have hit a ‘chord’ with me and see what happens.

On a side note, I did start my own Yahoo Group. North America ANR/ABF Meeting Place.  Why?   Well, it is a contradiction to who I am…  LOL……Most people that know me, know that I am rather submissive.  OK, extremely submissive.  However, starting my own ANR group?  That was all about control!!  HEE HEE.  You can find a link over there  ß for my group.

Well, happy nursing everyone

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Regularity? What is ‘regular’?

I thought I would share this insightful email I received from someone in one of my groups.  (I hope he doesn’t mind that I am sharing his words!)  He happens to think he thinks about boobs too much, but if you are interested in ANR…..I agree it isn’t possible to think about them too much.  Thank you for the words of encouragement!


In order to make this all happen and happen as naturally and smoothly as possible, regularity is the key.

 
I’ll say it again:  A regular schedule of “nursing” is key to having milk come in, boosting the volume to where you want it, and then maintaining it at that level.
 
How regular is regular?  Well, the “best” info on this is ” +/- 10%” on your time window.  So, if you are nursing (and by this I include whatever means that you are using – your partner’s mouth is best and we go down the scale from there) 1x per day, then we are talking about once every 24 hours, so +/- 10% gives you a “window” of almost 5 hours centered around the time of day you have set aside.  (it should be noted that 1x per day is HIGHLY UNLIKELY to induce lactation, and is unlikely to maintain it at any “real” volume.  You are fooling your body into thinking that it has to provide – when the usual suspect reaches the level of only 1x per day then for all intents and purposes, the “job” is “done”, and your body reacts accordingly) – now at 3x per day things change.  I’ve read many accounts of inducing lactation without any sort of medicinal help even in women who have never had children with a fairly strict 3x per day schedule – it takes time.  At the far end of the scale, is 8x per day (must be nice to have that sort of time free).  Probably 3-4x per day is all that most regular folk who have to also live a regular life can do.  Thankfully for those of us who are like minded, this happens to work (isn’t the body an amazing thing?!)
 
So, what ever times of day you pick,” +/- 10%” of that time (let’s see @ 3x per day…..8 hours….that would appear to be +/- 48 minutes if you want to split hairs – call it 45 minutes.  These are for the “start times” – not the finish line.
 
COMPLETELY emptying each breast is key – especially now that you have actually reached the promised land (oh how I envy you both).  If it is your partner, then know that’s done is fairly simply – no more comes out.  If you are pumping, even after the flow stops, you will need to do a little more manually – apparently the Marmet Technique is the hands down winner here.  You can find “how-to” on Google.  If you are not using a pump, then the Marmet will do it all.  A little gentle massage before and after never hurts – be nice to yourself after all.
 
To BOOST the volume, then you have to send that signal of “we need more” to the brain – simple to do.  Again, the accepted numbers are “about 5 minutes of suckling after you run dry”.  That is to say, you want to continue the stimulation (demand) for at least 5 minutes after you run out of milk, but, anything more than say 10 minutes does not give you additional benefit (aka: ‘Okay, okay, we GET the message already!’ ) while less than 5 minutes does not seem to be enough (no real measurable results apparently).
 
To MAINTAIN the production volume, once you reach a happy place, you want to assure that you avoid periods of engorgement (sends the “oops, full up, make less next time” signal) as much as possible – obviously it cannot be avoided at all times, and your body recognizes this, so, completely emptying in such a case is vital – perhaps even adding a bit of the “more please” signal to keep the records straight as it were.  So again, to maintain, you want to regularly empty both breasts – completely – but do not need to continue with the “more please if you don’t mind” signals to your brain – it’s all about the brain after all.  However, you CAN REDUCE the frequency once you reach the happy place – but make any such changes GRADUALLY over time…..going from 8x to 1x in one day is just asking for bad times (and pain)…extreme example yes, but it makes the point….again, this is all about fooling that big gray erogenous zone between your ears – in this case you are specifically trying to fool the automatic functions….so do so in the manner they expect to be treated and they will be happy, leaving the rest to really enjoy things.
 
It’s all just a STATE OF MIND!  Again, it’s all in the mind – think milk, have milk.  Think enjoy, then you enjoy.  Mind over body – that has for sure been proven over and over and over again.  This is just another application of the old mantra.  So, what you really have to do is remove the stress you add by feeling that you are doing something wrong by not meeting the expectations you have put on yourself.  Ask yourself why you are doing this in the first place, and then see if what you have (with or without milk) satisfies the question at least in part.  Focus on that while doing the rest and the results you want will come along.  For example, if you are really not in the mood for sex, you won’t be horny – for men, you may not even be able to get hard…or be gotten hard by the person you are simply not in the mood to be doing anything with….a cool spring breeze however, is still a cool spring breeze (we are men after all).
 
Boiling all of the above down to simple words:  Set a schedule and stick to it, think happy thoughts of white nectar, ENJOY what you are doing simply for the sake of doing it.  You will have what you set your mind to having in the end.
 
Lastly, a note on “sucking” versus “suckling” – only because I see this over and over on threads, blogs, and all over the place.  Suckling is what works.  Sucking does not.  Suckling is the rythmic motion which a baby use to “pump” the milk out of the breast – Sucking is what you do with a straw (think about it, there is a distinct lack of rythmic motion).  Put another way – sucking is how you make a hicky, suckling is much more like what you do when you put your thumb in your mouth.  In particular, you are not rubbing your tongue, you are rolling it along (think “Belly Dancer”, “doing the wave”, “the GENTLY rolling surf of the sea shore”), in effect, your motions are pushing the collected milk from behind the nipple out through the nipple – NOT PULLING it out.  Sucking can, and has, actually injured the tissue structures inside of the breast and is counter productive to lactation and nursing.  This is not to say that it’s not done and that it does not get milk out of a breast – but if you want this to be enjoyable and loving etc then you want “suckling” and not “sucking” – ESPECIALLY in the prelactation stages of induction and in the “boosting volume” stages.
 
Enjoy, Good Luck, HAVE FUN !!!!!!!

The last words are very appropriate……HAVE FUN……the more fun you have with this, the less tiresome it becomes.  Especially for those of us without a partner.  Believe me…..having ‘fun’ by yourself does have it’s advantages……..
Happy Nursing!!!
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Open comments to potential partners

Please, please…PLEASE……know and understand what ANR is!!!!!!!  I don’t want to spend my time teaching you what it is.  If you don’t know, please…..RESEARCH IT!  Google it!  If you decide it isn’t for you….do NOT pass judgement on me for wanting it.  Please keep it to yourself.  A simple “I misunderstood.  Good luck”  works very well and is much appreciated.

If we (women), say we are specifically looking for men that are in a specific age group, ethnicity, experience level, etc:  Respect that.  Many of us can’t go outside of that comfort zone and if we state plainly what we are looking for, respect it.  It doesn’t mean you can’t contact us, but if we tell you we are not interested because you fall outside of those ‘requirements'; don’t take it personally.  This is a very ‘comfort oriented’ relationship and if we are not comfortable….you aren’t going to get what you are looking for either.

If we say we are NOT looking for married men, that also includes men living with, dating, or otherwise committed with another person.  We do mean:  We are looking for men that are SINGLE….unattached…..NOT seeing anyone else.  Respect that.

If we are looking for ANR, please note the last word in that:  RELATIONSHIP.  Yes, we are looking for a relationship with a partner that is also looking for that.  It is a deep commitment and a ‘fly-by nursing’ is NOT what we are looking for.  If we say we are looking for the ‘fly-by’, then great….you luck out.  Most of us women are looking for the full package.  Please be sure of what we are looking for before you respond and if you aren’t sure, ASK US!  Then listen to us!!!!

Please don’t ask about what size my breasts are right out of the gate.  That is something for future discussions.  You may like a large-breasted woman, or a small-breasted woman over the other, but size is NOT relative to the milk produced.  Don’t ask for a photo of them either.  Really?  You don’t need me to explain this one do you??

Whether or not I ‘can orgasm’ when nursing; is not open for discussion.  I am not looking for a purely sexual relationship.  I am looking for a deep, committed relationship with nursing as a component of that relationship.  If I was looking for a way to ‘get off’, I would state that.  And that would be an entirely different relationship.

From the women that are not currently lactating, please know that while we would love to have you ‘help’ us…..know and understand what that means.  This is a huge commitment….HUGE…..and if you can only get together once a week for a nursing session?  Be up front about that.  To successfully induce, our body’s requirements range from once a week (unrealistic) to 6 to 10 times a day (ideal, but not realistic unless you live & work together).  No matter what, if we tell you we need AT LEAST once a day and you can not do that…say so.  Don’t promise something you can not give us!

From the women that are lactating, please….unless I tell you I am interested in a one night stand nursing some stranger?  I am looking for the full package.  View us as complete packages. We are not just boobs that have milk coming out of them!  We are more than that.  We are women who want to be seen as women….mind, body and spirit!

On a personal note:  If you hear me say I have some concerns or if I say I have a nagging feeling….or better yet:  I have a gut feeling?  You had better start being truthful.  It will come out, one way or another.  If you think you can hide whatever it is, you are wrong!  Believe me…..I will find out whatever it is you are hiding and it would be better handled if it comes directly from you.

One last personal note:  I am not looking for a man (or partner) that wants to be treated like a baby.  I want an ADULT partner.  If I wanted a ‘baby’, I would have had one!!!!!

Ok, that is my rant for the day!!!!!

Happy Nursing (in spite of my rant)

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Informational or Instructional Items

In one of my Yahoo Groups, someone posted a question about ‘how to’ in regards to hand expressing.  There are several ways that it can be done; and if you notice a previous post of mine, I had a document that gave written instructions for methods of hand expressing.

On one of my many searches, I found this video.  I do NOT take any credit for it, but I am sharing it here.  There are not enough of these videos out there for informational or instructional expressing for those of us without a partner.  Even those with a partner, there may be times when you will need to hand express.  I hope this helps!

Hand Expression Tutorial

Happy Nursing!!!

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